The Magic of Connection

Did you ever wonder about the mysterious moments when you think about someone and they call or email before the day is over? How does that happen? Is there some invisible computer line that starts as you think about a long lost friend or relative?

There is a kind of magic and the best I can piece together it is all about intention. Once you think about someone hard enough there is a link that starts. It may be filled with static initially; however, the clearer you become, the more clear the link is.

Take Michelle, a beautiful woman who had just severed a long, deep relationship with her soon to be husband. It just wasn’t working. They had talked and talked and it was becoming a vicious circle of pattern repetition in their conversations.

She was shocked at how she could not sleep or eat. After all, she was a modern woman who did not validate her life through a relationship with a man. Yet, even though she had been the one to say “stop, we’re done” somewhere inside she was not finished.

Weeks went by and she fought to get on with her life. We were out to lunch and she sipped her tea musing about her frustration. She knew when she told him not to call he would abide by her decision; and yet, and yet, it was like waiting for the other shoe to drop, waiting for that final sound.

I wondered what was in the way of her reaching out to have a final talk. “Nope, it’s over”. Then her cell phone rang and she was invited to be a speaker at a very prestigious conference in San Diego. I watched her become active with interest and then suddenly go flat, like stale champagne.

When she hung up she informed me she would turn down the invite because, guess who else was going to speak. She could not bear to be there in such an unpleasant situation.

She talked and I listened. Then she became clear, made a decision to stand steady and move forward. She called the meeting planner back and said she would be delighted to be a presenter.

And, I was there and watched this unfold before my eyes. She glanced at her Blackberry and there it was, a brief but vital email from Dan saying he missed her and they needed to talk; it was not over and he wondered if she would be able to come to San Diego, that he was going to be speaking and he would love to have her join him.

The meeting planner had no idea they had been a couple; the program coordinator did not know either one of them personally. So, how did these synchronicities fall into place?

While Michelle let pride get in the way, the attraction and caring were still there. Once she was clear other “forces” came into play. The German philosopher Goethe put it best; whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”

So, swipe the fear or the pride out of the way and when you are unsure, take a bold step; with intention and honesty comes the magic of possibilities.

Sylvia Lafair, Ph.D., author of the award winning book, “Don’t Bring It to Work” and “Pattern Aware Success Guide”,  is President of CEO, Creative Energy Options, Inc., a  global consulting company focused on optimizing workplace relationships through extratordinary leadership. Dr. Lafair’s unique model has revolutionized the way teams cooperate, relate and innovate.

She can be reached at sylvia@ceoptions.com or 570-636-3858; www.sylvialafair.com

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